The M-Word
"Courtesy - Shobha De"
Even as a teenager, I never suffered from
period cramps. I was fortunate.Perhaps my training as an athlete helped me to
overcome the monthly menace that paralyses so many young lives. I could hardly
afford to confess to my trainer that I wouldn’t be running / jumping at the
highly competitive sports’ meet because I was menstruating.No sportswoman
enjoys such an indulgence. No matter what, you play the game.Period cramps can
wait. One of my daughters gets laid up for two straight days a month, doubled
up with pain and unable to crawl out of
bed. Nothing helps. Not even a hot water bottle. Fortunately, today’s
urban teen is raised to take menstruation in her stride as compared to the
nasty old days. I notice the naturalness with which teenagers mention their
‘condition’ to friends, boys in the group included. This is a huge change from
earlier times when girls were made to feel like they had a highly infectious communicable
disease by their own families. Mothers would strike their foreheads in despair
and curse their fates for giving birth to daughters, making a bewildered twelve
year old feel guilty, ashamed and miserable for bleeding. I escaped such a
fate, but my sisters didn’t. They were treated like outcastes and made to hide
any evidence connected to their biological cycle. The word ‘menstruation’ was
never to be uttered in the presence of men folk. And those four ‘unclean’ days had
to be endured in discreet isolation. It is in this context, that I applaud the
efforts of three entrepreneurs from the National Institute of Design (NID), who
have launched Menstrupedia.com, a website that addresses various aspects of
puberty , along with exploding the incredible and annoying myths associated
with menstruation. Myths that make a woman feel ‘impure’. Or advise her to stay
away from pickles, not shampoo her hair or stay out of the kitchen. Aditi
Gupta, Tuhin Paul and Rajat Mittal have earned the gratitude of several young
girls who may not have the sort of access to responsible information when they
most need it. Mothers are often hesitant or even ill informed themselves,
leading to much confusion and self-loathing in the teenager’s mind.
Since it is a free website in English, the three
bright sparks have decided to broaden their reach by translating the content
into several languages. What’s more, their latest objective is to launch comic
books in various Indian languages to further simplify the information. They are
trying to generate funds for this project and are also looking for volunteers.
Their target is pretty modest – 5 lakhs
is all they need. So far, they have managed to collect half the amount, mainly
from family and friends. It is an initiative worth supporting, given their
commitment to it. Ambitious and motivated, they also hope to make these
comics available in international
languages. For the moment, the focus is on setting their ‘characters’ for the
comic books, by getting the details right. For this purpose, they are building
a library of ‘looks’ from different
regions, so that it will be easy for readers
to identify with these characters.
I thought how much easier life would have
been for my generation had we not had to battle age-old taboos and hide our
monthly affliction from the world. The worst ignominy during school days was to
stain the pristine white uniform and deal with the stares and sniggers that
followed. Today, with superior sanitary products,
and better awareness of personal hygiene, some of these issues have been taken
care of. But not all. Despite more openness, girls are still emotionally and
psychologically hampered by a society that makes them feel ‘unclean’ on some
level and excludes them from auspicious functions. Till such time as we relook
at our antiquated attitudes to the subject, our female teens will be forced to
adopt a brave façade and project a fake nonchalance during ‘that’ time of the
month. A time that is indeed difficult and delicate. For PMT is definitely not
a myth. It is a recognized medical condition that affects millions of women
worldwide. Some of us have had to take the inescapable monthly mood swings in
our stride and soldier on. But for those whocontinue to suffer month after
month, perhaps a quick visit to Menstrupedia will provide much needed comfort.
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